YOU appear calm, controlled and confident - but inside you feel numb, lonely and distraught.

You don't want your family and friends to see you cry so you put on a brave face.

Now, you no longer have to suffer alone.

A free, confidential bereavement service is at hand to help you cope with the loss of someone you love.

"Even though you've got a family, once that door closes it hits you - he isn't coming back," said Jean Peet, Halton's bereavement development co-ordinator.

"We let people tell their story in their own words.

There are so many private, personal memories you cherish that you would love to talk to someone about but don't want to burden relatives."

A team of volunteers has been professionally trained to offer support and understanding as part of Halton integrated bereavement service, funded by the Big Lottery.

"Counsellors are people who can listen and don't keep interrupting and putting their view forward," explained Jean. "They are non-judgemental and detached."

It doesn't matter how long ago your loved one died, it is never too late to receive counselling.

"Something may happen that triggers it all off again," said Jean. "You need to get it out of your system and can't move on until it is resolved."

Jean visits everyone who seeks help and assesses how grief has affected their everyday life.

She matches each person with a listener she believes they'd feel happy to confide in.

Confidential sessions are then arranged which take place at Widnes Library, Ditton Community Centre or Halton Haven.

"It is very rewarding," said Jean. "Exploring personal details with someone is a great privilege. With grieving, there is no time limit. We always leave the door open."

Call 01928-791221 if you're bereaved and need someone to talk to. Alternatively, drop-in sessions are held from 4pm to 7pm on the first Wednesday of every month at Halton Haven and on the third Wednesday of every month at Widnes and Runcorn Cancer Support Centre, Alforde Street, Widnes.

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