I've been in a gay relationship for seven and a half years. Even though I have lived with my partner for seven years I haven't told my parents yet, I feel that it would upset them too much.

I wanted to know if you felt that I should tell my family and would they approve?

Al, UK

Dear Al,

They know, but they don't want to confront you or the situation. When it's all out, as it were, you will wonder why you never said anything years ago.

If their response is negative you can get on with your life. If it's positive they will more involved with you and your partner.

If you leave it, how will you explain the great loss you have if one of you goes to the other side first?