Dear James, I have been in love with a married man for over three years - although we have not had an affair as such. He says he loves me and I do believe him. Can you see him leaving his wife so we can be together? Your reply would be of great relief to me as I can't bear to put my life on hold for him any longer.

Tracey, New Zealand

Dear Tracy, Why do you need a answer from me, you know what you feel is right in your heart, you have got to feel happy with yourself. Do you think that you will be in the future with him full time?