DEAR JAMES, I WAS WITH A LAD OF 24 WHO HAS 2 CHILDREN AND WE WERE HAPPY AT FIRST AND THEN I GOT PREGNANT.

I HAD A MISCARRIAGE AT 9 WEEKS. WE STARTED ARGUING ALL THE TIME BUT STAYED TOGETHER BECAUSE WE SAID WE LOVED EACH OTHER. I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT AGAIN IN MAY AND AM NOW 6 AND A HALF MONTHS INTO A SUCCESSFUL PREGNANCY BUT WE SPLIT UP ABOUT 2 MONTHS AGO AND HE'S HAD 3 GIRLFRIENDS SINCE THEN. HE SAID HE DOESN'T WANT US TO GET BACK TOGETHER AND HE DOESN'T WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH OUR SON WHEN HES BORN, BUT HE STILL SAYS HE LOVES ME AND ALWAYS WILL. DO YOU THINK HE WILL CHANGE HIS MIND WHEN OUR BABY ARRIVES? DO YOU SEE US BEING A FAMILY? THANKS FOR READING MY MESSAGE HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU SOON.

SOPHIE, MERSEYSIDE

Dear Sophie, You have built good foundations in your life that you need to build on now that you have surrounded yourself with good friends that you can rely on and I suspect that you have been told to let him go. Don't bury your emotions or your strong feelings that you have for this man but understand where he is coming from. Let him know how you feel about him and then walk away. If he is the right man for you and the baby he will return to you. If he does not, don't waste any more time on him.